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Leadership and Self-Deception is a guide to becoming self-aware by learning to see your faults more accurately, understanding other’s strengths and needs, and leaning into your natural instinct to help other people as much as possible.
Leadership and Self-Deception is a guide to becoming self-aware by learning to see your faults more accurately, understanding other’s strengths and needs, and leaning into your natural instinct to help other people as much as possible.
Imagine you’re sitting on a bus with an empty seat next to you. Are you carefully watching others around you, hoping that nobody takes the seat?
This is a form of self-deception in which you value your own comfort above that of others. And you do it all the time without realizing it.
Everybody wants and even deserves respect. Our entire society, including laws and constitutions, builds on this fact. But when it comes to everyday interactions with others, this principle is easy to forget.
When you’re caught up in deception, you can’t see clearly. You’re “in the box” as the authors put it. You see others as mere objects instead of the living breathing beings they are. Which often means they don’t get the respect they deserve from you.
This is self-deception at its core. It’s the idea that you don’t see others as they really are but instead how you think they are. And most often what you think of them is based on the false assumption that your needs are more important.
In other words, you frequently deceive yourself into thinking that others don’t even really have needs at all. This is a severe limitation of your worldview. Not only does it limit the care that others get from you, but it also hinders your progression.
Once you fall into the vicious cycle of self-deception it can be hard to get out. Part of the reason for this is because you tend to think of it as being harmless to others. But it does hurt people, and it keeps you from reaching your full potential. When you overlook other’s desires and virtues and overemphasize your own you prevent yourself from meeting their needs. That makes them suffer and makes you selfish. Think about what would happen if you were talking with your spouse about where to go on vacation. If you were self-deceived, you’d think that what you want is more important than what your spouse wants. You’d then consider your actions as justifiable and reasonable, and theirs as being unrealistic and flawed. This makes you blame your spouse, fail to meet their needs, and hurts your relationship. But the reality is, your thinking patterns are just as flawed, if not more so. And your spouse’s desires are just as valid as yours. It’s not easy to beat this because you actively look for reasons to justify your reasoning to protect your desires. Which, in addition to your ego, also get…
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Get the complete summary in the appSelf-deception makes you think that the needs of other people aren’t important, which, in turn, makes you treat them like objects.
You deceive yourself by focusing too much on other’s weaknesses while overemphasizing your own virtues.
If you want to eliminate self-deception and reach your full potential, commit to always act on the instinct to help other people in need.
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