The Great Sex Rescue

"Sex was designed to allow us to enter into a state of joyful abandon, to completely surrender ourselves to the other in an ecstasy of trust and love." God's design for sex is far more than just physical release.

"Sex was designed to allow us to enter into a state of joyful abandon, to completely surrender ourselves to the other in an ecstasy of trust and love." God's design for sex is far more than just physical release. It encompasses emotional and spiritual intimacy, mutual pleasure, and a deep "knowing" of one another. The authors propose that a healthy sex life should be: Personal: A chance to truly become one and know each other deeply Pleasurable: Designed to feel good for both partners Pure: Free from sexual sin and infidelity Prioritized: Recognized as a vital part of a healthy marriage Pressure-free: A gift freely given, not coerced or manipulated Putting the other first: Considering your spouse's needs before your own Passionate: Allowing for joyful abandon and complete surrender This holistic view of sex contrasts sharply with many cultural and religious messages that reduce it to mere physical acts or duties.

"We'd like to see that orgasm gap close, but that will only happen when we start to believe that she doesn't just need to "catch up"; he may need to slow down." Female pleasure matters. The authors' survey found that while 95% of men orgasm every or almost every time they have sex, only 48% of women do. This "orgasm gap" highlights the need for better education and understanding of female sexuality. Key findings include: Only 39% of women who can orgasm do so through penetrative intercourse alone Adequate foreplay makes a woman 6.43 times more likely to orgasm frequently Women who experience closeness during sex are five times more likely to orgasm reliably The authors argue that closing this gap requires a shift in mindset from viewing female pleasure as optional to seeing it as equally important as male pleasure. This involves prioritizing foreplay, communication, and exploration of what works for each individual woman.

"Save sex for when you're married, and then once you're married, don't have sex until your body is begging for it!" Arousal is key. Many women struggle with sexual satisfaction because they skip the crucial step of becoming fully aroused before engaging in sexual activity. The authors emphasize that arousal is like a necessary train stop on the way to orgasm. Key points include: Arousal often takes longer for women than men Rushing into intercourse without proper arousal can lead to pain and dissatisfaction The "gatekeeper" mentality taught to many women can inhibit their ability to relax and become aroused To address this, couples should:…