Who Not How

Who Not How will skyrocket your success, happiness, and fulfillment in all areas of your life by identifying why you’re looking at your problems the wrong way and how simply seeking to get the right people to help you will make all the difference.

A couple of years ago I was in a job working for a boss that I didn’t really like. I remember sitting there one day realizing that I didn’t want to be there anymore and asking myself how in the world I was going to get out.

But I was asking the wrong question, as I was soon to discover. Thankfully, I quickly began asking the right one without even knowing it.

Not long afterward I started writing on Medium.com. Six months later had a freelance writing gig because of friendships I’d made there.

Two months after that, I had lost my job. But again, because of my connections, I got to start my own company.

And just this month I get to buy a house in a wildly competitive market thanks to some amazing friends.

These experiences are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how success has found its way to me because I’ve met the right people instead of worrying about how it was going to get done.

This is the power of Who Not How. I could complicate it but at its core, all you need to do to utilize the massive potential within this tool is stop asking “How will I get this done?” and instead ask “Who will help me reach my goal?” in all aspects of your life.

As a 16-year-old living in California, Richie Norton wanted to get a job. After hearing about this, Richie’s dad told him that he didn’t want Richie to get a job. What Richie really wanted was money, so his dad told him how he could get it. Soon, Richie and his brother were driving their family’s van, with all the backseats out of it, to a watermelon farm. They bought all the deformed watermelons, which the farmers couldn’t sell. Once they got home, Richie and his brother started going down the list in the phonebook, calling everybody and offering his watermelons. A few hours later he’d made more than he would have the entire summer working a full-time job. Initially, Richie’s question was “How will I make the money I want?” The only answer he could come up with was a job that would have cost him the entire summer’s worth of time. Instead, with the right Who, his entrepreneur dad, Richie cut down the amount of time it took him to earn that money significantly, leaving his whole…