13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do is a psychological guidebook that will improve your mental strength and emotional resilience while inspiring you to not give in to bad habits in the face of adversity.

Number 4 on Amy’s original list was not wasting energy on things that are outside of your control. This not only means not trying to change the weather, other people’s behavior, or the fact that you just got fired, but also not wasting energy complaining about it.

Every complaint is a serious waste of your breath and it’s a topic that keeps resurfacing in books again and again and again for a reason. Even if you think you really really deserve something (and you might), the world doesn’t owe you anything. The minute you believe it does, you’re setting yourself up for anger, frustration and bitterness.

For example, if you get a divorce and your spouse gets custody of your daughter, she might end up showering her with expensive gifts you can’t afford. You can complain about it, but it’ll only make you focus on the bad parts and try to control your ex-wife’s behavior. If you instead took that time to just spend it with your daughter and show her you love her, she would never turn against you. But if you’re busy fighting with your ex-wife and neglect her, you’ll probably indeed damage the relationship.

Let’s face it, scrolling down your Facebook feed only makes you feel dead inside. You’ve just gotten addicted to the little dopamine hits you get from finding something good every once in a while, that’s why you keep scrolling. Other than that, you’re just poisoning your own well by indulging in all kinds of comparisons.

You know what? It’s time. Time to stop the comparison madness. Looking at a sea of promotion notifications, Hawaii beach photographs, new cars, and VIP events just makes you feel miserable about your own life. But Facebook is just a highlight reel. It doesn’t show the shitty sides of life. Just the good stuff.

It’s a bad yardstick to measure your self-worth by and will only make you compete with others in vanity metrics. How can you be a true friend if you’re constantly busy envying what your friends do and have?

Stop it. Eliminate your Facebook feed with a few clicks. Leave it for a week. See how you feel. You won’t miss anything. But you’ll feel content with your life.

Speaking of content, there’s another thing Facebook can’t teach you. It’s okay to be alone. When was the last time you just sat on your chair, alone in your room, and did nothing? No phone, no reading, no TV, no music.…