All About Love

All About Love teaches you how to get more affection and connection in your relationships by explaining why true love is so difficult these days and how to combat the unrealistic expectations society has set up that makes it so hard.

If you look at the most common topics throughout movies, books, television, and music, love is probably the most frequent to appear. You’d think that with all of these messages about it we’d be better at it. But many of us struggle with this trait in multiple aspects of life.

The most common association we have with the word love is affection. Think about how you feel about your significant other, for example, and you know just what I mean. It’s fun to be “in love” but the process of loving others is another thing entirely. And it’s one we often forget, with terrible consequences.

Some people will even go so far as to use this definition to excuse bad behavior. They emphasize the feeling of love so much that they overlook mistreatment. People frequently get the idea that someone who is abusing them still loves them. Or even that it’s not a problem if a person that says “I love you” is causing pain.

The problem here is merely in the definition of the word love. Only looking at the feeling side isn’t enough to make for healthy relationships. We need to refocus ourselves on loving other people. It’s the verb love that truly heals broken hearts.

Many theorists and psychologists have identified this important idea before the author did. They all believe the same thing, that love is consistently working to nourish spiritual growth inside ourselves and others. If you want to have better relationships, see how you can care for others better instead of just feeling love for them.

There’s a lot of deception involved in online dating. Taking just one profile picture to let others try to get an idea of who you are is one example. But then you’ve got to add a little blurb about yourself, too. You’d never say that you are a liar, right? Yet society pushes us to lie about ourselves all the time. Many men, for example, lie to maintain dominance and get more power. It’s often seen as a disadvantage to show feelings or take responsibility, which only promotes dishonesty further. And women lie by changing the way they look or how intelligent they seem. The world teaches us that being a smart and independent woman isn’t what men want. Which is a despicable lie on its own, by the way. The problem with lying is that it makes it hard for us to trust one another and…