Girl, Stop Apologizing

Girl, Stop Apologizing is an inspirational book for women everywhere to start living up to their potential and stop apologizing for following their dreams.

Even in the age of female empowerment and #Metoo, many women continue to neglect what they really want. One reason for this is that people worry about what others think of them.

In toddlerhood, we all learned attention-seeking behaviors-the things we could do that get grownups to pay attention to us. Whether we like it or not, many of our actions are predicated upon how the people around us will respond.

These factors, along with many girls still being raised to believe their value lies in how good of a wife and mother they’ll be, cause too many women to stop pursuing what they truly want. Or if they do, they feel like they have to apologize for putting themselves first.

Hollis puts it this way: boys are brought up to follow their dreams while girls are brought up to follow what they think is expected of them. How can women get past this? It’s simple: stop worrying about other people’s expectations.

It’s okay if your dream doesn’t look like someone else’s or doesn’t align with what other women want. Tear down your self-limiting excuses, and start replacing them with empowering behaviors that will help you reach your goals.

It’s a phrase all of us use far too often: “I don’t have time.” That’s why Hollis encourages you to banish the phrase from your mind. If you want to pursue your dreams, you need to make time for them. Stop looking for free time to start working on your goals and start making time for them. You will have to make sacrifices, that’s for sure. But you’ll be reaping the rewards of your hard work in no time. Another common excuse can be that you don’t “have what it takes.” This is another way of saying you are insecure. These feelings usually come from past experiences such as being teased as a kid or failing a test in college. But don’t let past experiences ruin the success waiting for you in the future. You have the ability to change and improve, all you need is to be willing and eager to learn. “But what will they think?” is a phrase used to limit ourselves. There are two types of people in the world, those that are judgemental, and those who will encourage you. The judgmental ones will find reasons to judge you no matter what you do, so you might as well stop worrying about what they think. Don’t be afraid of what people think of you, and most of all don’t be afraid to fail.…