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James Sexton has spent his career in rooms where marriages come to die. As a Manhattan divorce attorney, he has sat across from more than a thousand couples as they dismantled the lives they once promised to build together. He has heard the confessions people never intended to make. He has watched spouses discover secrets about each other that they managed to hide for decades. He has seen the exact moment when hope gives way to paperwork.
**Author:** James J. Sexton
**Estimated Reading Time:** 45 minutes
**What You'll Learn:**
- Why most marriages fail long before anyone cheats or files papers - The communication practice that prevents small grievances from becoming divorce evidence - How to handle money, desire, freedom, and attention in ways that preserve partnership - What a thousand divorces taught one lawyer about the daily habits that keep love alive
**Who This Book Is For:**
Anyone in a relationship they want to keep. Anyone who has ever wondered how good marriages quietly become bad ones. Anyone who believes love should be built deliberately rather than left to chance.
James Sexton has spent his career in rooms where marriages come to die. As a Manhattan divorce attorney, he has sat across from more than a thousand couples as they dismantled the lives they once promised to build together. He has heard the confessions people never intended to make. He has watched spouses discover secrets about each other that they managed to hide for decades. He has seen the exact moment when hope gives way to paperwork. This is not the perspective of a therapist who helps couples heal. It is the perspective of someone who sees what happens when healing never comes. And Sexton believes that perspective is exactly what people in decent marriages need. The central problem is simple. Most people enter marriage with almost no preparation for what actually makes marriages fail. They assume infidelity is the great destroyer. They assume money fights tear couples apart. They assume some dramatic betrayal will mark the end. But after facilitating the demise of over a thousand marriages, Sexton has reached a different conclusion. The real causes are quieter. They are the slow accumulation of small failures. The unspoken grievance. The unexpressed desire. The moment of disconnection that goes unaddressed until it becomes a pattern. Consider the statistics. Over half of marriages end in divorce. Yet over eighty percent of divorced people remarry within five years. This is not a population that has given up on love. This is a population that keeps trying the same approach and getting the same result. People do not stop believing in partnership. They just keep doing it badly. Sexton wrote this book because he believes the best way to understand how to keep a marriage together is to study how marriages fall apart. He has seen the autopsy reports. He knows where the fatal wounds occur. And he has noticed something striking. The marriages that end in his conference room rarely fail because of one catastrophic event. They fail because of a thousand small decisions made over years. They fail because of conversations that never happened. They fail because…
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Get the complete summary in the app**Hit Send Now.** Address small grievances immediately. Do not let them calcify into resentment.
**No one can read minds.** Tell your partner what you need. Ask what they need. Do not assume.
**Tight grips and loose arms.** Control the essentials. Allow freedom. Possessiveness backfires.
**Go without or go elsewhere.** Express your needs or face the only two bleak alternatives.
**Praise the behavior you want to see more of.** Criticism creates defensiveness. Praise creates connection.
**You can be right or you can be happy.** Choose resolution over the ego rush of victory.
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James J. Sexton, Esq. is a seasoned divorce lawyer based in Manhattan. Known for his early morning routine, starting his day at 4:00am, Sexton brings a wealth of experience to his writing. As a divorced man himself, he offers a unique perspective on marriage and relationships. Sexton's approach combines legal expertise with personal insights, making him a compelling voice in the field of relationship advice. His work as a divorce attorney has given him a front-row seat to the challenges couples …
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