Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus helps you improve your relationships by identifying the key differences between men and women.

After a long day at work, Tom and Mary come home with work-related issues on their mind. As they both sit down for dinner, Mary starts talking about how her boss is making her work too much. Tom, being the problem-solver he is, starts offering solutions. This upsets Mary since she only needs Tom to listen to help her feel better.

Tom, on the other hand, wants to solve his work-related issues in solitude or by taking his mind off work while watching TV. He only feels the need to talk to Mary about a problem when he wants her to give him a solution. Mary feels sad because Tom isn’t talking about what’s bothering him as she does.

In both cases, Tom and Mary try to fulfill each other’s needs the wrong way, so they end up fighting. To solve this issue, Tom can listen to Mary without offering solutions unless she specifically asks for help. Mary can let Tom process his emotions by himself when he needs to.

As a man, you can let women talk without offering solutions and deal with your own issues later. As a woman, you can wait for men to solve their problems by themselves until they feel better.

One Sunday afternoon, Tom decides to fix a broken bookshelf by himself. After watching Tom work for hours, Mary tells him to call his brother for help. Tom doesn’t like the advice because he wants to feel useful by fixing the bookshelf by himself. All he needs from Mary is an appreciation of his efforts and trust in his skills.

Mary, on the other hand, does all the dishes, laundry, cleaning, cooking, and other household tasks on most days. She is happy to do this work, but when Tom doesn’t acknowledge the care she provides, Mary starts resenting him. If Tom appreciated the small things Mary does for him, he would fulfill Mary’s need to be loved and respected.

In both cases, a lack of voluntary appreciation creates tension and needless problems.

As a woman, you can show men that you trust them and let them help when they want to, so they’ll feel useful. As a man, you can repeatedly show women how much you love them to make them feel fulfilled.

One day, Mary brings up the issue that Tom has been too busy to spend time with her. She says: “We never go out together!” As a result, Tom bursts out in anger, reminding her of all the times they did go out together and all the things he’s…