No More Mr. Nice Guy

No More Mr. Nice Guy explores ways to eliminate the “Nice Guy Syndrome”, which implies being a man that avoids conflicts at all costs and prefers to show only his nice side to the world, even when it affects him negatively by damaging his personality and preventing him from achieving his goals in life.

No one really likes conflict or arguing with someone else. But it is a natural part of our life. Plus, it can teach us a lot about ourselves and help us become more open minded in the future. Our conflict management skills say a lot about ourselves. So it is important to learn how to deal with one when it occurs.

First thing first, acknowledge the other person’s point of view. Truth is never an absolute concept, so it is important to make the other person feel heard out. However, make sure to engage and not abide in your confrontations. Moreover, when someone expresses a different point of view, analyze it first, and don’t agree with it.

If you indeed feel like they’re right, let them know. But if you have a different opinion, be vocal about it and don’t let them step all over your point of view. Remember, your opinion is as valid and as strong as everyone else’s, so back it up accordingly.

If you’re scared of confrontation, there’s no better way to end that fear than by facing it upfront. Therefore, next time you find yourself in a conflictual situation, remember to stand up for yourself and you’ll see how the situation starts

Helping your friends out is a great and noble thing. In fact, the world would be a better place if people would help each other out more. However, there’s a limit to everything, and men who tend to overplease others are also more likely to have blurry or nonexistent boundaries in their relationships. Being unable to set healthy boundaries when it comes to your time, emotional availability, willingness to help, and other social implications, could lead to disastrous outcomes for both parties. On one hand, the other person will feel as if they can use you as their go-to problem solver without even asking themselves first if you’re alright with that. Then, they’ll start to lose respect for you and your preferences, knowing too well that they’re easy to go around with. This will not only build frustration inside you and leave less time for your own life, but also damage your friendship. For this reason, it is important to speak up when something feels uncomfortable and not fear the outcomes of you bringing forth an issue. If your relationship with a certain person ends as you’re claiming back…