Safe People

Safe People focuses on the importance of recognizing the types of people, distinguishing between the safe and unsafe ones, avoiding toxic relationships, and establishing meaningful ones by reading people and trusting God.

It’s easier to spot unsafe people if you have in mind certain features to look after when you’re networking. Make sure to remember them when the situation asks for it so that you don’t end up sitting at the wrong table.

The first type of unsafe people are the abandoners. These people start off being nice and enthusiastic, but you rarely get to see them afterwards. They are most dangerous in a romantic relationship, as they start off looking like they want a close partnership, but once they see perfection is unattainable, they leave cold-heartedly.

The second type are the critics. These people will spend their valuable time judging others instead of helping. They lack empathy and compassion. Still, they might come in handy when you need to analyze a situation or a person and if you need help untangling a situation and fixing it.

The third type are the irresponsible friends. You can’t count on these people with plans. They might cancel at the last minute or not show up at all without an excuse. Make sure to keep these types of people away, as they can put your happiness at risk and negatively influence the way you behave.

Often we recognize unsafe people and feel if our connection with them is toxic. Then, we choose to become distant or end the relationship overall. However, what if we are the ones that are unsafe or toxic? How can one tell if they are incapable of true connection?

More often than not, our past experiences have turned us into unsafe people. Past trauma and psychological injuries messed up our ability to connect with other individuals on a deeper level. Let’s check some of the most self-destructive things we’re exposed to that put our safety in danger:

Envy. When we feel envy, we rob ourselves of the ability to receive love, as we can’t give it to others. Secondly, self-sufficiency is equally dangerous. It makes us think that we can’t rely on someone else, and it makes us deny our need for connection with another person ever again.

A sense of entitlement is also destructive. When we feel as if we don’t need anyone, it takes us one step further from God. And when we refuse to acknowledge we need Him too, we’re on our way to self-destruction. At this point, we need to go back to the problem and recognize that we might need to reach out to others and seek God for answers and healing.