Sh*t I Say to Myself

Thoughts aren't inherently true or false; they are simply electrical signals that fire in your mind, which your mind then rapidly interprets.

Thoughts aren't inherently true or false; they are simply electrical signals that fire in your mind, which your mind then rapidly interprets. Thoughts are interpretations. Our minds produce thousands of thoughts daily, many of which are not based on observable facts but rather on subjective perceptions and biases. Understanding this can help us detach from negative self-talk and question the validity of our thoughts. Evaluate thought accuracy. To challenge negative thoughts: Ask if the thought is 100% true, 100% of the time Consider if 100 strangers would unanimously agree with your perception Examine the evidence for and against the thought Identify the story or core belief the thought upholds Reflect on how believing the thought affects your life By recognizing thoughts as mental events rather than absolute truths, we can choose to engage with helpful thoughts and let go of those that don't serve us.

Self-compassion is the act of turning that loving energy toward ourselves when we are struggling, noticing something we dislike about ourselves, feeling difficult emotions, or are in any state of distress or discomfort. Treat yourself with kindness. Self-compassion involves acknowledging our pain, offering ourselves comfort, and recognizing our shared humanity. It's not self-pity or self-indulgence, but rather a way to motivate ourselves through love instead of criticism. Implement self-compassion practices: Validate your pain and emotions Offer yourself comfort and soothing touch (e.g., hand on heart) Remind yourself of your shared humanity ("Everyone struggles sometimes") Use compassionate self-talk ("It's okay to feel this way") Practice mindfulness to observe thoughts without judgment By cultivating self-compassion, we create a supportive inner environment that fosters resilience, growth, and emotional well-being.

Please don't take this personally, but you'll never be perfect—so, let's figure out how to let go of this bit of self-talk once and for all. Perfection is unattainable. Striving for perfection often leads to self-criticism, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Embracing imperfection allows us to accept ourselves as we are and focus on growth rather than unattainable standards. Shift from perfectionism to self-acceptance: Recognize that everyone is inherently flawed Challenge unrealistic standards and expectations Focus on progress and effort rather than outcomes Practice self-compassion when facing shortcomings Celebrate your unique qualities and strengths Reframe "failures" as learning opportunities By accepting our imperfections, we can reduce stress, increase self-esteem, and cultivate more authentic relationships with ourselves and others.

Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention [to the world] in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally. Present-moment awareness. Mindfulness helps us observe our thoughts and emotions without getting caught up in them. This practice…