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by Dan Sullivan
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Dan Sullivan has spent more than four decades coaching entrepreneurs. He has worked with founders who built companies worth hundreds of millions of dollars, people who have appeared on magazine covers, people who have won industry awards, people who have created generational wealth. And he has noticed something strange about many of them.
By Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy
**Estimated Reading Time:** 45 minutes
**What You'll Learn:**
* Why successful people are often the unhappiest people you know * The single mental shift that transforms how you experience achievement * How to measure your life in a way that produces confidence instead of anxiety * Practical daily practices for staying in a state of appreciation * How to turn painful experiences into fuel for growth
**Who This Book Is For:**
This book is for high achievers who have accomplished more than most people ever will, yet still feel like they are falling behind. It is for entrepreneurs who hit revenue targets and immediately move the goalposts. It is for professionals who received the promotion but cannot enjoy it because they are already worried about the next one. It is for anyone who has ever looked at their life and thought, "I should be further along by now."
If you have ever felt that strange emptiness after achieving something you worked years to accomplish, this book explains why. And more importantly, it shows you how to fix it.
Dan Sullivan has spent more than four decades coaching entrepreneurs. He has worked with founders who built companies worth hundreds of millions of dollars, people who have appeared on magazine covers, people who have won industry awards, people who have created generational wealth. And he has noticed something strange about many of them. They are miserable. Not all of them, of course. But a surprising number of highly successful people walk around with a quiet sense of dissatisfaction that never seems to go away. They achieve a goal, feel good for about fifteen minutes, and then immediately start thinking about what they have not accomplished yet. They look at their lives and see everything that is missing rather than everything that is there. Sullivan began to wonder why this happens. Why do some people achieve extraordinary things and feel deeply fulfilled, while others achieve the same things and feel perpetually behind? The answer, he discovered, has nothing to do with the size of the achievement. It has everything to do with how people measure their lives. Most people measure themselves against an ideal. They have a picture in their mind of where they should be, what they should have accomplished, who they should have become. And every day, they compare their current reality to that ideal. The distance between where they are and where they think they should be is what Sullivan calls "the Gap." Living in the Gap is exhausting. It makes you feel like you are always losing, even when you are winning. It robs you of the satisfaction of your achievements. It makes…
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Get the complete summary in the app**Happiness is a choice, not a destination.** Choose it now, not after the next achievement.
**Measure backward, not forward.** Compare yourself to where you started, not where you think you should be.
**The Gap produces dissatisfaction. The Gain produces confidence.** Both are always available. Choose the Gain.
**Transform failures into gains.** Feel the emotion, reflect on the experience, reframe the meaning.
**Define success for yourself.** Do not inherit someone else's definition.
**Shift from needing to wanting.** You can want something intensely without being dependent on it.
"The Gap and The Gain" is a strong fit if you want practical ideas around self help, business, personal development, especially themes like **happiness is a choice, not a destination.** choose it now, not after the next achievement; **measure backward, not forward.** compare yourself to where you started, not where you think you should be. The MinuteRead summary distills these concepts into a focused read, whether you're deciding whether to buy the book or applying its lessons at work.
Benjamin Hardy is a prolific author and expert in psychology and personal development. He co-authored "The Gap and The Gain" with Dan Sullivan, an experienced entrepreneur coach. Hardy is known for his engaging writing style and practical approach to self-improvement. He has a significant online following and has written several bestselling books. Hardy's work often focuses on helping individuals achieve their goals and improve their lives through mindset shifts and actionable strategies. His co…
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