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Shahroo Izadi spent years helping people change behaviors that were killing them. She worked in addiction services, ran relapse prevention groups, and sat across from people who had lost everything to drugs, alcohol, and compulsive patterns. She also spent years fighting her own private war with food and her weight, losing and regaining the same thirty, forty, fifty pounds more times than she could count.
**Author:** Shahroo Izadi **Estimated Reading Time:** 45 minutes
**What You'll Learn** A complete framework for changing any habit without shame, punishment, or white-knuckling your way through life. You will learn why self-compassion outperforms self-criticism every time, how to map your own psychology so you can work with your mind rather than against it, and how to build a change plan that actually sticks.
**Who This Book Is For** Anyone who has tried and failed to change a habit. Anyone who speaks to themselves in a way they would never speak to a friend. Anyone exhausted by the cycle of motivation, collapse, and self-loathing. And anyone who suspects that the real problem is not a lack of willpower but a broken relationship with themselves.
Shahroo Izadi spent years helping people change behaviors that were killing them. She worked in addiction services, ran relapse prevention groups, and sat across from people who had lost everything to drugs, alcohol, and compulsive patterns. She also spent years fighting her own private war with food and her weight, losing and regaining the same thirty, forty, fifty pounds more times than she could count. She knew the science. She understood the psychology. She could guide her clients toward recovery with warmth and skill. But when it came to herself, she reached for the same tool most of us reach for: punishment. Harsh rules. Rigid plans. A voice in her head that called her weak, undisciplined, and broken every time she slipped. Then something shifted. She noticed a strange gap between how she treated her clients and how she treated herself. With clients, she was patient. She celebrated small wins. She framed relapses as information rather than moral failure. She believed in them even when they did not believe in themselves. With herself, she was a tyrant. The contrast became impossible to ignore. She decided to run an experiment. What if she applied the same approach she used with clients to her own relationship with food? What if she stopped trying to shame herself thin and started treating herself like someone worth caring for regardless of what the scale said? The results surprised her. The weight came off, yes, but that was almost a side effect. Something deeper changed. She stopped obsessing. She stopped bingeing. She stopped swinging between perfection and collapse. The whole exhausting drama quieted down. And she realized she had stumbled onto something that deserved a name. She called it The Kindness Method. This is not a book about being soft on yourself. It is not about letting yourself off the hook or abandoning standards. The word "kindness" can sound gentle and passive, but Izadi means something more muscular. She means the kind of…
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Map before you act. Understand your patterns, strengths, triggers, and the functions your habits serve before you design
Your unwanted habits developed for reasons. They are solutions to problems. Identify the problem before you try to chang
Build realistic, incremental plans. Start with changes you are confident you can sustain. Self-trust is built through co
Set a three-week review date for every plan. This creates accountability and allows for adjustment without abandonment.
Identify your triggers and create specific plans for each one. Preparation outperforms willpower.
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Shahroo Izadi is a Behavioral Change Specialist with experience in drug counseling and weight management. She developed The Kindness Method based on her professional and personal experiences. Izadi provides relapse prevention coaching and support groups at a recovery house for young women. She also conducts popular workshops designed to help people change habits on their own terms. Her work has gained attention from various media outlets, including BBC Radio 1, The Telegraph, and Red Magazine. I…
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