Unfu*k Yourself

Unfu*k Yourself offers practical advice on how to get out of your self-destructive thoughts and take charge of your life by learning how to control them and motivate yourself to take more responsibility for your life than you ever have before.

If you want to live the life you have imagined, it is imperative that you start planning it and figure out a strategy to achieve it. Defining goals is one of the most important parts of the planning process, as it sets the foundation for your actions. Therefore, prioritize it, instead of postponing it.

Be specific when it comes to your objectives and create attainable, step-by-step plans to achieve them. However, in the process of planning, it is important to let your expectations go and truly think about what you want out of your life. Falling into the trap of your own mind is a common mistake in this process.

Dream the impossible, then achieve it. Don’t plan someone else’s life, picturing a house, a child, and a perfect job, if that’s not what you wish for. Don’t buy into certain secure outcomes and get stuck in a job or position that you loathe. Instead, chase the unreal and picture what exactly you want out of your life.

The author suggests that chasing uncertainty is what will add more magic to your life. You cannot predict your life, so instead of trying to do so, just embrace whatever comes at you and learn to juggle with it. It may surprise you, but when you adopt this mindset, inexplicable things will start happening to you and change your life.

Gary plays on the idea that life is uncertain and that you can’t fight it. Frankly, there’s not much to argue about with this fact. Therefore, our plans will not always fit into the picture-perfect lines we’ve drawn for ourselves. When this happens, the best thing you can do is acknowledge and rebalance. Many people postpone their happiness until they reach their goals. This is unhealthy, as variables change in time and what sounded like a good plan and a successful accomplishment before may change in time. Learn to enjoy the journey and find happiness in the little things that make it unique. Planning and setting objectives is a healthy approach to your life and it can prove to be very rewarding in time. However, clinging to those expectations and linking your sense of purpose to them is not. Expectations can distract us from more important things, such as opportunities to seize or a more positive outcome. Failures often awaken certain self-destructive emotions. Bishop suggests that whenever we fail or something doesn’t go as planned, we have to simply accept it…