When Things Fall Apart

When Things Fall Apart gives you the confidence to make it through life’s inevitable setbacks by sharing ideas and strategies like mindfulness to grow your resilience and come out on top.

What’s your first reaction when you get scared? You want to run away, right? This is a natural response and justified in some circumstances. But depending on where you’re at, welcoming and learning from your fear can help you.

Change your perspective so that you try to understand your fears the next time something scares you. It just might give you a new outlook on your past, relationships, or even who you are.

Usually, all fear means is that you’re getting closer to discovering important truths about the difficulties you face and life as a whole. In other words, you shouldn’t run from it because this emotion has got a lot to teach you!

Instead, begin reflecting on your fears. Too often, you’re so caught up in trying to fix your issues that you miss out on the important personal growth and learning experiences they can teach you.

It helps to recognize that your life is constantly changing, for good or bad. When you understand and accept that this is normal, you open yourself to seeing solutions you might have otherwise missed.

There’s a story of a family that was going through hard financial times and only had one son that could work to keep them afloat. One day, the boy fell and broke his leg, threatening the family’s situation even further.

Their worry was unwarranted, however. Not long afterward the army came through the town, enlisting every able-bodied man. Because of the boy’s injury, he didn’t have to go and soon found work again!

In The Dark Knight Rises, the villain Bane gives us a truth about life that we don’t want to think about. “There can be no true despair without hope,” he tells Batman after breaking his back and putting him into prison. While you think it’s always good to cling onto hope when times get tough, the reality is that we have to be careful with this tool. Too much of it can leave us feeling disappointed when our hopes are dashed. In Tibetan, the word “re-dok” is a combination of the words for fear and hope. It encompasses the feeling of both looking forward to a better life while at the same time being afraid of failure. What you need to do instead is question both your expectations and worries. Imagine someone says that you look old. You initially get offended, right? But consider how different you’d feel if you questioned why you think looking young mattered. Once you examine it further it’s easy…