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by Russ Harris
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Most people believe confidence is a feeling. They imagine that confident people wake up each morning with a sense of certainty, a quiet inner assurance that they can handle whatever comes their way. They picture confidence as a warm glow of self-belief that propels people forward into action. And they assume that until they feel that glow, they cannot possibly do the things that scare them.
By Russ Harris
Estimated Reading Time: 45 minutes
What You'll Learn:
- Why waiting to feel confident before taking action keeps you stuck - How to handle fear, anxiety, and self-doubt without letting them control you - Practical techniques for defusing negative thoughts - How to clarify your values and use them as a compass for action - Why failure is a necessary part of genuine confidence - How to build lasting confidence through committed action
Who This Book Is For:
This book is for anyone who has ever held back from speaking up, pursuing an opportunity, or taking a meaningful risk because they did not feel confident enough. It is for professionals who hesitate before presentations, for people who avoid difficult conversations, for those who dream of starting something new but feel paralyzed by self-doubt. If you have ever thought, "I will do it when I feel more confident," this book will change how you understand confidence entirely.
Most people believe confidence is a feeling. They imagine that confident people wake up each morning with a sense of certainty, a quiet inner assurance that they can handle whatever comes their way. They picture confidence as a warm glow of self-belief that propels people forward into action. And they assume that until they feel that glow, they cannot possibly do the things that scare them. This belief creates a trap. It creates what Russ Harris calls the confidence gap: the space between where you are now and where you want to be, a space that cannot be crossed because you are waiting for a feeling that may never arrive before you take the first step. Consider how this plays out in everyday life. You want to speak up in a meeting, but you do not feel confident, so you stay silent. You want to ask someone out, but you do not feel confident, so you say nothing. You want to apply for a promotion, but you do not feel confident, so you let the deadline pass. Each time, the absence of confidence becomes the reason for inaction. Each time, the confidence gap widens. The problem is not that you lack confidence. The problem is that you have been taught to wait for it. Russ Harris is a medical doctor and therapist who has spent decades helping people overcome anxiety, self-doubt, and fear. His work draws on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a scientifically supported approach to psychological wellbeing. What Harris discovered through his clinical work and his own experience as a stand-up comedian is that the conventional wisdom about confidence is backwards. Confidence is not a prerequisite for action. It is a result of action. Think about anything you now do…
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Get the complete summary in the appThe actions of confidence come first; the feelings of confidence come later.
Do not wait to feel confident before taking action.
Fear is not a signal to stop; it is a signal that you are growing.
Defuse from unhelpful thoughts by seeing them as mental events, not facts.
Make room for uncomfortable feelings instead of fighting them.
Clarify your values and use them as a compass for action.
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Dr Russ Harris is a medical doctor, stress consultant, executive coach, and leading authority on Psychological Flexibility. He regularly presents workshops and runs training seminars for health professionals. Harris's first book, 'The Happiness Trap', became a bestseller in Australia. He previously worked as a GP and performed as a stand-up comedian, which influences his engaging and humorous speaking style. Harris's work focuses on enhancing performance, reducing stress, and improving wellbeing…
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