Conscious Uncoupling

Conscious Uncoupling will improve your love life by showing you how to break up the right way and why things are going to be okay after you separate from someone you once loved.

Over the years we’ve come a long way in acceptance when it comes to love and marriage. But society is still very stuck on the notion that coupledom is the ultimate way to be successful. Most people feel it means security in finances and increased social acceptance. And, of course, people will stop asking when you’re going to get married again.

But if coupling up equals success, separation equals failure. It’s already hard to endure a breakup, but add on the stigma and it’s even harder. So, it’s time to stop playing the shame game. Imagine being able to leave a relationship and not feel the shame that we couldn’t make “till death do us part” work.

The thing is, “till death do us part,” as romantic as it sounds, isn’t really realistic for many modern couples. Traditionally, marriage has been for life. But though many outdated marital traditions have been left behind, this notion has stuck. Back when the promise of “till death do us part” was started in the fourteenth century, not only was life expectancy 40 years shorter, marriage was also much more of an economic proposition than about love.

“Happily ever after” would be a lot easier to accomplish when “happily” meant economic security, and “ever after” was only a couple decades. So really, there shouldn’t be a shame behind separation. Other’s shouldn’t judge you, and you shouldn’t shame yourself! The real shame is in clinging to outdated ideals that can prevent you from living the happy life you should.

Contrary to what the movies might portray, real-life breakups are complex. Often there are bitter arguments, grief, and rage. Even worse, both sides stoop to lows they have never before and do things intending to hurt the other person. But they don’t have to be this way. Instead, imagine a breakup where respect still exists, as do forgiveness and generosity. In this breakup, there isn’t any need to badmouth or find ways to cut down your partner. This is conscious uncoupling. And it is built on the idea of karma. Or in other words, your actions to those around you are seeds that blossom in your own life. So, when our intention is to hurt or punish the other person for the injustice you feel they’ve done, you’ll only plant these seeds of bitterness in your own life. If you alternatively were to be forgiving and kind, this would invite kindness and forgiveness into your own life. When you consciously uncouple, you strive…