Relationship Goals

Relationship Goals will open your mind to the true nature of healthy connections with others and help you prepare for health and happiness while you’re single and when you get married by outlining common relationship traps and how to avoid them.

I recently deleted my Instagram and Twitter accounts. I’ve reluctantly kept Facebook but locked myself out intentionally. The half-truths that people share about how good life is just got to be too much for me.

I worry that even my own posts were filled with an unrealistic picture of what my life is really like, especially when it comes to relationships.

The truth is whenever you see #relationshipgoals online you’re not getting the full picture. Relationships are hard and messy. People fight and yell, and everyone has flaws.

Unfortunately, your addiction to social media has given you a false goal to find the perfect relationship, which doesn’t exist. This is why you look at the surface-level traits like looks or financial status instead of what you really need from a partner.

And it’s also why your relationships may be suffering.

The author’s experience with a girl named Sarah who is a member of the church where the author is a pastor shows how this sometimes happens. She’d gotten to an age where she was disappointed that she wasn’t married, and often talked with the author about it.

But when asked about what she was looking for in a companion, she gave a long and strict list. The author had to be honest with Sarah, her relationship goals were too unrealistic.

You can and should identify what you’re looking for in a companion, but apply a healthy dose of sensibility as well.

Growing up, the author didn’t receive much relationship advice beyond “no sex until after you’re married.” Because the church isn’t great about handling this aspect of life, many people turn to advice from TV, movies, or celebrities and end up ruining their relationships while single. The problem with these sources is they oversimplify it all into just love, marriage, and children. But this doesn’t account for the intricacies and steps in between. Instead, the author now knows there are six levels of progression in relationships: Singleness Dating Engagement Marriage Love Children Although it may not seem like it, singleness is one of the most important steps. That’s because it lays the foundation for your connection with others throughout the rest of your life. It’s the time for various “I’s” that you need to work on, such as: Investing in your personal development and creative projects. Imagining and planning your future, then working hard to make it happen. Inspiring others by doing things like mentoring. By working on these…