She Comes First

She Comes First is sex therapist Dr. Ian Kerner’s guide to improving sex by emphasizing the female orgasm, explaining why changing your mindset about sex and focusing on the stimulation of the right places in the right ways can be more enjoyable than intercourse for both men and women.

Fair warning, what we’re about to get into is not safe for work. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t read it at home!

You also want to go into this recognizing that everybody is different when it comes to sex. The most important thing is to communicate with your partner to find out what they enjoy and don’t. And always respect your partner’s desires.

Most people think that success between the sheets depends on size and thrusting. But the truth is that women can orgasm in different ways, and not all are created equal. The key to the best orgasms for women is understanding the clitoris.

Research reveals that the clitoris is far more sensitive the vaginal wall.

Some argue that the G-spot is in the vagina and that’s where the best orgasms happen. But the G-spot is actually part of the clitoris, and the reason it sets of pleasure signals is because it gets stimulated during intercourse.

The truth is, unless you want a baby, you don’t even have to include penetration to have great sex!

And if you still doubt the power of the clitoris, consider this. There are people without a vagina that still have external genitals and they can still have orgasms.

If you’re starting to catch on you might now wonder how to stimulate the clitoris correctly. The key is cunnilingus, which is oral sex on a woman. But to get it right, you first have to understand the anatomy of the area. Some people refer to the clitoris as the happy maker, orgasm switch, or love button. That might make it seem easy to simply push it to give a woman an orgasm, but it’s more complex than that. The entire clitoris actually goes from the top of the pubic bone all the way to the anus, and has a head, shaft, and base, among other parts. Some of it’s areas you can’t even see! Everything together makes up 8,000 nerve endings, which is more than anywhere else on the female body. You need to know about the ten highly sensitive spots of the clitoris if you want to get sexual stimulation on a woman right: Head G-Spot Pubic mound Front commissure Frenulum Labia minora Vaginal entrance Fourchette Perineum Anus You can stimulate each of these parts during sex for maximum pleasure, but you’ve got to set the stage and plan on the right acts,…