The End Of Stress

The End Of Stress shows you not only that treating stress as normal is wrong and how it harms your mental and physical health, but also gives you actionable tips and strategies to end stress once and for all so you can live a long, happy, powerful and creative life.

It’s easy to just try and deny stress for as long as you can. But eventually, reality will catch up with you. We all face stressful events, and sometimes they get really bad. Eventually, you’ll have to deal with the situation, one way or the other.

The first thing Goewey suggests is being aware of your choices and says you always have at least one of the following three:

Change it. Leave it. Accept it.

For example, let’s say you lose your job, because a high-level executive at your company committed tax fraud and robbed the company of half the profits for the year. Totally unfair right? Not your fault in any way, but the only option for the company to survive is to let go some of their employees.

Now, you could try to change the situation, for example by getting a lawyer and proving your dismissal was unfounded. Or you could leave it, by accepting the change and walking away from a firm that probably didn’t deserve you in the first place. Accepting it means to not complain or judge, without demanding change.

Obviously, in this scenario you’d have to change it or leave it. But imagine a loved one just died. In that case, you can neither change the situation, nor simply leave it behind – sometimes acceptance is the only way.

No matter how bad things get you always have at least one of these three options. And while acceptance sure is the hardest one, remember that you’re always 100% in control of one thing: your own attitude.

Do you sometimes get mad at people with a zen-like, almost monk-style state of mind? I do. But if I’m honest, most of the time it’s just because I’m jealous. In reality, I’d always prefer to be as calm as them in the situations where I usually get mad. Even Buddha himself didn’t find enlightenment from one day to the next, though. A peaceful mindset is the result of continuous, daily practice. Goewey suggests these two exercises to get you there: Start your day with some peace and quiet. Take a 30-second time-out a couple times a day. If you hit the off-switch on your alarm clock every morning, knowing you have exactly 20 minutes (or even less) to get out the door, that’s not a great way to start your day. Try waking up earlier and taking…